Tuning in to Teens Program

A parenting program that helps teenagers learn to understand and regulate their emotions

Tuning in to Teens Parenting Program (9+ yrs)

Tuning in to Teens™ is a parenting program that helps children learn to understand and regulate their emotions. Previous research has found that parenting styles can influence a child’s emotional intelligence.

Emotional intelligence is the ability to understand and control your emotions, as well as being able to communicate to others about how you feel.

Children with good emotional intelligence often have better emotional, social, and physical functioning, as well as fewer behavioural difficulties.

These parenting programs aim to give you helpful ways of teaching your child the skills of emotional intelligence. The program teaches you about how you, as a parent, can help your child develop good emotional skills. It teaches parents:

  • awareness and regulation of their own emotions
  • awareness of their children’s emotions
  • to use children’s emotional experiences as an opportunity for closeness and teaching
  • skills in assisting children to verbally label and manage their emotions
  • skills in assisting children in problem-solving
  • to guide children’s behaviour with appropriate limits

The programs involve watching video material, group discussions and exercises, role plays, reading information, and home activities where you try out different ways of responding to your child’s emotions.

Parents are encouraged to share experiences and ideas within the group and group leaders may use these as examples to explain and teach the skills of emotion coaching.

Would you like to learn how to: 

  • be better at talking with your child?
  • be better at understanding your child?
  • help your child learn to manage their emotions?
  • help to prevent behaviour problems in your child?
  • teach your child to deal with conflict?

Tuning into Kids shows you how to help your child develop emotional intelligence. Children with a high emotional intelligence:

  • have better success with making and keeping friends
  • have better concentration at school
  • are more able to calm down when upset or angry
  • tend to have fewer childhood illnesses

Emotional intelligence may be a better predictor of academic and career success than IQ!

Parent Feedback

Parents who have participated in the program have reported that they found it very useful for relating not only to their children, but also to other members of their family, their friends, colleagues, and people they interact with in their lives.

At the same time they reported while the concepts in the program were very logical and simple, it was often difficult to put Emotion Coaching skills into practice.

The quotes below provide an indication of the range of experiences of program participants.

‘It was easy to understand, but felt very strange doing it at first’

‘The entire family is now more conscious of their own and other’s feelings/emotions.’

‘Thank you for the chance to do the program — it is the best thing I have done to improve my relationship with my kids.’

Emotion coaching is a way of responding to children’s emotions that helps them to learn about their emotions. The key aspects of Emotion Coaching identified by Gottman and colleagues were:

  • being aware of children’s emotions
  • viewing children’s display of emotions as a time for intimacy and teaching
  • helping children to verbally label the emotions being experienced
  • empathising and validating children’s emotions
  • helping children to solve problems (and setting limits where appropriate)

What is Emotional Intelligence?

Emotional Intelligence is about using your emotions to guide you through the world.

It is about being able to use your own knowledge of emotions to make decisions, to calm yourself down, to manage anger and conflict, to help you in your relationships with people, to know what is happening in social situations, and to assist you in many aspects of life where you or another person are involved.

Developing Emotional Intelligence increases your ability to:

  • understand and talk about emotions
  • understand other people’s emotions and respond with empathy
  • motivate yourself optimistically – to plan, set goals and focus attention
  • handle relationships successfully – problem solve around emotions and manage behaviour – including resolving conflict thoughtfully and non-violently.

Why is Emotional Intelligence Important?

Children with greater Emotional Intelligence have been shown to:

  • have greater success with making friendships and be more able to manage conflict with peers
  • be better able to self-soothe when upset or angry and have fewer behaviour problems
  • have better concentration which means they are more likely to be successful academically
  • tend to have fewer childhood illnesses
  • have more stable and satisfying relationships as adults
  • have greater career success: Emotional Intelligence may be a better predictor of academic and career success than IQ!

Many children and parents have some of these skills already. The aim is to help families to develop Emotional Intelligence skills further and understand them in the context of current research.

What Parents are saying about the Program

“It made me a calmer parent, and my child is calmer and we feel closer to each other. My child is also better able to manage their behaviour.”

“The emotional toolbox I have now is priceless.”

“This program is a lifesaver for me.”

“It was also good to hear that the types of emotional reactions of my child are being experienced by the children of all the parents attending- that was comfort- it’s not just us/me!

“It opened my eyes to my own personality and why I am the way, I am.”

“I can look at things from my child’s point of view now.”

Course Dates

Tuning in to Teens Parenting Program (9+ yrs)

  • Accepting registrations for Tuning in to Teens 2018.
  • Dates: Starts Wed 15 May 2019 and runs for six weeks every Wednesday
  • Times: 10am – 12pm
  • Cost: Free
  • Venue: The Rail Neighbourhood Centre
  • Eligibility: Living in the Shellharbour LGA

Important Notes

  • Limited places for the program, bookings essential. Please note that if we are unable to contact you to confirm your attendance, you will be removed from the list.

Register for ‘Tuning in to Teens’ Program

What is Tuning in to Teens?

The Tuning in to Teens parenting program runs over 6 weeks, with parents meeting in a group under the guidance of a trained facilitator.